Amara & Tomiwa
A&T

The wedding of Ìgbéyàwó

Amara & Tomiwa

request the pleasure of your company as two threads become one cloth

Saturday 17·04·2027 Lagos, Nigeria

Saturday 17 April 2027, in Lagos. We cannot wait to celebrate with you.

Dear friend,

Four years ago, a borrowed seat at a birthday dinner turned into the best conversation either of us had ever had. Since then we have survived an ocean between us, a thousand voice notes and one very nervous proposal on the sand at Tarkwa Bay.

Now we are making it official, and the day would not be complete without you. Come and eat with us, dance with us, and pray over us as we begin forever.

With all our love,Amara & Tomiwa

A threefold cord

Two are better than one… for if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow… and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Ecclesiastes 4:9–12

AmaraTomiwaGod, at the centre

Our story Ìtàn wa

Two threads, one cloth

Scroll slowly. Our threads find each other the same way we did.

Her thread

Amara

Born in Enugu in 1996. Lover of crime novels, Sunday jollof and a colour-coded calendar.

His thread

Tomiwa

Born in Ibadan in 1995. Lover of football, old highlife records and arriving fashionably late.

2021

The first hello

Lekki, Lagos · 19 November 2021

A friend's birthday dinner, two empty seats at the far end of the table. Tomiwa asked Amara to pass the jollof. She asked for his number before dessert, and we have argued about who made the first move ever since.

2023

Across the water

Lagos ↔ Manchester · 2023

Amara's master's degree took her to Manchester for a year. Nine months of 6 a.m. calls, handwritten letters and one very expensive surprise visit taught us that home is a person, not a place.

2026

She said yes

Tarkwa Bay · 13 June 2026

A boat ride, a picnic that was clearly too well planned, and both families hiding behind a cabana. Amara said yes before Tomiwa had finished the question.

13·06·26 — she said yes!6.40° N, 3.39° E · Tarkwa Bay

And then

17·04·2027

This is where you come in.

Two threads, one cloth, and every one of you woven into it.

Kindly reply

The celebration Ayẹyẹ

Two days, one family

Every event is in Lagos. Tap a venue for directions, or save an event straight to your calendar.

Friday 16 April 2027Save the day

Traditional engagement

2:00pm

The Oduya family compound, Ikeja GRA

Aṣọ òkè in alaari wine and gold. Families arrive from 1:30 pm.

Saturday 17 April 2027Save the day

Church ceremony

11:00am

St. Augustine's Chapel, Ikoyi

Doors open at 10:15 am. Please be seated before the bride arrives.

Saturday 17 April 2027Save the day

Reception

2:30pm

The Grand Pavilion, Lekki Phase 1

Dinner, toasts and dancing until late. Access card required at the door.

Order of the day

Saturday, in order

On the day itself this list follows the clock, so you can always see what is happening now.

  1. Doors open at the chapel
  2. The ceremony begins
  3. Photographs on the chapel steps
  4. Reception doors open
  5. The couple's grand entrance
  6. Dinner is served
  7. Toasts and the cutting of the cake
  8. First dance, then the floor is yours
  9. Last song, and carriages home

What to wear Aṣọ ẹbí

Woven in our colours

Our colours come from the three prestige dyes of aṣọ òkè: etu indigo, alaari wine and sanyan silk, finished with a thread of gold. Choose a day to watch its cloth come off the loom.

Friday · Traditional engagement

Aṣọ òkè in alaari wine with gold. Ladies in gold gele, gentlemen in wine or gold fila. Aṣọ ẹbí fabric is available from Mrs Oduya until 20 February 2027.

  • Alaari wine#7A1C3C
  • Etu indigo#1B2444
  • Sanyan silk#CDB596
  • Lurex gold#D8B262

Look closely. Our initials and our date are woven into the cloth.

The wedding train

The people beside us

The friends and siblings who carried us here, and who will walk in ahead of us.

IO

Ifeoma Okafor

Maid of honour

DA

Damilola Adeyemi

Best man

CN

Chiamaka Nwosu

Bridesmaid

KB

Kunle Bakare

Groomsman

TE

Tolu Eze

Bridesmaid

SA

Seyi Adebayo

Groomsman

ZM

Zainab Musa

Bridesmaid

EO

Emeka Obi

Groomsman

Kindly reply

Will you celebrate with us?

Fill in the card, seal it, and send it straight to our WhatsApp. Access cards with your table and venue details arrive by email two weeks before the wedding.

Admission is strictly by access card, and each card admits only the names on it.

Please reply bySaturday 6 March 2027
A & TKindly reply by the sixth of March

Will you be there?

Seats on your card

You will find me at

Nothing is sent until you tap the WhatsApp button on the next step.

For our guests

A few details

Should I bring a gift?

Your presence is the gift. If you would like to give something more, everything is under Gifts: pick a tag off our wish list, or write your name in the gift book and give towards our first home from Nigeria, the UK or anywhere. At the reception, envelopes rather than spraying, please.

How do I get my access card?

Once you reply, your access card is emailed to you two weeks before the wedding. It carries your name, table number, venue address and a QR code for check-in. Save it on your phone or print it, and if anything looks wrong, message our planner on WhatsApp.

My table is still unassigned. Should I be worried?

Not at all. Tables are assigned in the final week, once every reply is in. Your access card will show your table on the day.

Can I bring a plus one, or my children?

Each access card admits only the names printed on it. If your card says "and guest", you are welcome to bring one. We love your little ones, but the reception is an adults-only evening so that everyone can relax.

What is the aṣọ ẹbí, and where do I get it?

For Friday's engagement, family and friends wear aṣọ òkè in alaari wine with gold gele or fila. Fabric is available from Mrs Oduya until 20 February 2027. Saturday has no aṣọ ẹbí: black tie in our colours is perfect.

Is there parking at the venues?

Yes. The chapel has street parking with ushers directing, and The Grand Pavilion has a secured car park with valet. If you are using a ride-hailing app, the drop-off point is the main gate at both venues.

Where should out-of-town guests stay?

We have held a block of rooms at a hotel in Victoria Island, five minutes from the chapel and twenty from the reception. Mention "Amara and Tomiwa" when booking for the wedding rate, valid until 15 March 2027. The details are in your access card email.

Gifts Ẹ̀bùn · Onyinye

Your presence is the gift

Truly. Bring yourselves and your prayers, and that is everything. If your hand still finds something to give, there are two ways: pick something off our wish list, or write your name in the gift book and give towards our first home.

Our wish list

Bought something? Press I'm getting this on its tag so we can mark it taken before two aunties buy the same blender. Bigger gifts can be shared: chip in any amount through the gift book below.

The full list on Amazon (opens in a new tab)

Or write your name in the gift book

Press a stamp for where you are giving from, and copy what you need. Your name becomes the transfer reference, so the gift reaches the book.

Your page

Your line

Giving from

Bank
Account name
Account number
Narration
Amount · optional
₦

Your bank app shows the account name before you confirm. If it does not say , do not send; message our planner on WhatsApp instead. Your name is the narration, so the gift reaches the book.

Pay by card on Paystack (opens in a new tab)

Opens Paystack's own page in a new tab: card, bank transfer or USSD. Your name is filled in; the amount is typed there.

Tell us it is on its way

If WhatsApp does not open, copy the note and send it to .

Account name
Bank
Sort code
Account number
Reference
Amount · optional
£

From outside the UK

IBAN
BIC

Your bank checks the name before paying. It should match ; if it does not, stop and message our planner. Eighteen characters is all a UK reference carries, so we have kept yours short.

Pay by card on monzo.me (opens in a new tab)

Any UK debit card works, not only Monzo. With an amount written above, it and your reference travel with the link.

Tell us it is on its way

If WhatsApp does not open, copy the note and send it to .

PayPal
Link
Note
Amount · optional

This is Tomiwa's UK PayPal, so the gift lands in pounds; PayPal converts dollars, euros and most other money. Paste the note into PayPal's message box; the link cannot carry it for you. Prefer a bank transfer from abroad? Press United Kingdom: that account takes international transfers.

Open PayPal (opens in a new tab)

Opens PayPal in a new tab. You will need a PayPal account; the amount can be changed there.

Tell us it is on its way

If WhatsApp does not open, copy the note and send it to .

There is . keeps the book and receives envelopes with both hands. Write your name on the envelope so it goes in the book.

On the envelope

Envelopes rather than spraying, please. The Central Bank has views, and so do the aunties.

Giving from London, Houston or Toronto? Press United Kingdom or Elsewhere; there is no need to carry cash to Lagos.

This page remembers your line on this phone only. The real book is at the reception, with .

The couple's page

Amara & Tomiwa

The gift book · 17 · 04 · 27

Whatever your hand finds, we will put towards a home with salt and honey in it. — A & T

Long before naira, a gift like this came as cowries, owó ẹyọ, strung on a cord. Today it comes by transfer; the thought is the same.

One house rule: if it is not on the list, please do not box it. We move twice next year, and a third kettle would not survive it.

The sounds Orin

Our wedding playlist

From the first dance to the last Amapiano run. Follow along, and tell us in your reply what we are missing.

Or press play on the record for a little music-box Canon in D, the tune Amara will walk down the aisle to.

From our loved ones Àdúrà

Words to treasure

Amara, you have always loved with your whole chest. Watching you find someone who loves you the same way has been the joy of my year.
Ifeoma O. · Maid of honour
Tomi, my guy. Marry her well. Grow old and toothless together, and never stop passing the jollof.
Damilola A. · Best man
May your marriage be a light to everyone who sees it, and may you keep choosing each other on every ordinary Tuesday, not only on the big days.
Aunty Ngozi · With love
Ẹ ṣé o, Olúwa. Two good people, one beautiful home. We are praying for you both, always.
The Adeleke family

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