Seven years ago, in the lunch queue at a buka near UI, Chidi pointed at Funmi's plate and said “the same as her.” He was not ready for the ewedu. She laughed for a full minute, then showed him how it is done. Since then there have been Yoruba lessons with her grandmother, ofe onugbu lessons with his mother, and one very sweaty proposal at the top of Bower's Tower.
Now we are making it official, with two families, two languages and a frankly alarming amount of food, and the day would not be complete without you. Come and eat with us, dance with us, and pray over us as we start married life.
With all our love,Funmi & Chidi
Your people, my people
Whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God.
Ruth 1:16
Your fabric
A print with your name in it
At an owambe, the family wears one cloth. We printed you your own. It grows from your name, in our colours, and your initials are hidden somewhere in the pattern. Look closely. Same name, same cloth; roll again for a new design.
Press and hold the picture to save it. On a computer, right-click it and choose Save image.
The gist
How we got here
Meet
Funmi
Born in Ibadan in 1997. Pharmacist, amala loyalist, and the loudest laugh at any party she attends.
&
Meet
Chidi
Born in Enugu in 1995. Civil engineer, Rangers fan, and now the only Nwankwo who can prostrate properly.
2020
2020: The same as her
Agbowo, Ibadan · 14 October 2020
Chidi was three weeks into a new job in Ibadan and could not read the menu at the Adebayos' favourite buka, so he pointed at Funmi's plate and said “the same as her.” The ewedu slid off his fingers, down his shirt and into family legend. She laughed, then taught him the wrist move. He asked for her number with ewedu still on his collar.
The same as her, please.— C. · Agbowo · 14.10.20
2021
2021: Lessons, both ways
Bodija ↔ Enugu · 2021
For a year, Saturdays meant Yoruba with Ìyá àgbà, Funmi's grandmother, who started with greetings and moved on to proverbs he still gets wrong. Funmi took the night bus to Enugu to learn ofe onugbu from his mother, who made her wash the bitter leaf until her hands turned green. Six tries in, the verdict: “It is coming.”
Night busFC 1604
IBDENU
Passenger
ADEBAYO / FUNMI
Date
16 APR 2021
Seat
4 · window
Luggage
Ewedu, frozen
Return to Chidi
2026
2026: He asked at the top
Bower's Tower, Ibadan · 22 August 2026
Chidi said he wanted to see the whole city before dinner. At the top of Bower's Tower, out of breath, he asked in Yoruba, then in Igbo, then in English to be safe. Funmi said yes in all three. At the bottom, both families were waiting with a talking drum, which is how half of Ibadan knew before our phones did.
22·08·26, she said yes!7.39° N, 3.92° E · Bower's Tower
And then
11 · 12 · 2027
This is where you come in. Every one of you is in this cloth.
Every event is in Ibadan. Each pass has directions and a button to save it straight to your calendar.
Saturday, in order
On the day itself this list follows the clock, so you can always see what is happening now.
What to wear
Dress the part
Two days, two looks. Friday is aṣọ ẹbí: aṣọ òkè for the bride's side, George for the groom's, gold for everyone. Saturday is colourful formal, with no aṣọ ẹbí. The colour codes are here for your tailor.
Our people
The wedding train
The friends and siblings who carried us here, and who will dance in ahead of us.
Kindly reply
Will you celebrate with us?
Fill in your card and we will turn it into a WhatsApp message for our planner. Access cards with your table and venue details arrive by email two weeks before the wedding.
Admission is strictly by access card, and each card admits only the names on it.
Please reply bySaturday 30 October 2027
Your reply is ready
It has not been sent yet. Open WhatsApp, check it, and press send.
If WhatsApp does not open, copy your reply and send it to our planner on +234 800 000 0000.
You asked
A few details
Anything else, message our planner on WhatsApp at +234 800 000 0000.
Should I bring a gift?
Your presence is the gift. If you would like to give something more, everything is under Gifts: pick something off our wish list, or give towards our first home from Nigeria, the UK or anywhere. At the reception, envelopes rather than spraying, please.
How do I get my access card?
Once you reply, your access card is emailed to you two weeks before the wedding. It carries your name, table number, venue address and a QR code for check-in. Save it on your phone or print it, and if anything looks wrong, message our planner on WhatsApp.
My table is still unassigned. Should I be worried?
Not at all. Tables are assigned in the final week, once every reply is in. Your access card will show your table on the day.
Can I bring a plus one, or my children?
Each access card admits only the names printed on it. If your card says “and guest”, you are welcome to bring one. We love your little ones, but the reception is an adults-only evening so that everyone can relax.
What is the aṣọ ẹbí, and where do I get it?
For Friday's engagement, the bride's family and friends wear aṣọ òkè in Adebayo emerald with gold gele or fila; the groom's side wears George wrapper in Nwankwo hibiscus with gold. Aṣọ òkè is available from Aunty Bimpe and George from Aunty Uju, both until 30 September 2027. Not sure whose side you are on? Pick one; both will feed you. Saturday has no aṣọ ẹbí: colourful formal in our colours is perfect.
Is there parking at the venues?
Yes. Chapel of Grace has its own car park with ushers directing, and The Palmwine Pavilion has a secured car park with valet. On Friday, park on the street in Bodija and follow the sound of the drummers. If you are using a ride-hailing app, the drop-off point is the main gate at every venue.
Where should out-of-town guests stay?
We have held a block of rooms at a hotel in Jericho, five minutes from the reception and fifteen from the chapel. Mention “Funmi and Chidi” when booking for the wedding rate, valid until 12 November 2027. Message our planner on WhatsApp and she will send you the booking details.
Gifts
Your presence is the gift
Truly. Bring yourselves and your prayers, and that is everything. If your hand still finds something to give, there are two ways: pick something off our wish list, or give towards our first home.
Our wish list
Bought something? Press I'm getting this on its tag so we can mark it taken before two aunties buy the same blender. Bigger gifts can be shared: chip in any amount through the cash gifts below.
Copy what you need below. Please put your name as the reference, so we can thank you properly.
Whatever you give, or don't, your being there is what we will remember.
The sounds
Our wedding playlist
Highlife for the Nwankwos, fuji for the Adebayos, Afrobeats for everyone, and one slow song for us. Follow along, and tell us in your reply what we are missing.
If WhatsApp does not open, copy your wish and send it to +234 800 000 0000.
Example sites
Four designs, each with a sample couple, shown the way guests see them on a phone. Tap one to open the full site. Every name, date and colour changes to fit you.
Hover over a phone to scroll through its site. Swipe to see the others; the phone in the middle scrolls through its site. Sample names and details throughout. Each example is a working site: the RSVP, the gifts and the personal guest links all work.
